She Said No to the Electrician, Yes to the Man in the Electric Chair: Dating, Power, and the Illusion of Control
- JB Quinnon
- Jun 23
- 2 min read
She Said No to the Electrician, Yes to the Man in the Electric Chair: Dating, Power, and the Illusion of Control
In today’s dating world, logic has left the chat. There’s a growing trend that makes you pause and ask, "How did we get here?" Some women refuse to speak to a man in public because it’s “beneath them”—yet they’ll actively pursue a relationship with a man behind bars, sometimes even one on death row. Sounds wild? Let’s unpack it.
We live in an era where approaching a man working a stable 9 to 5 job is seen by some as a sign of weakness. “If he wants me, he’ll come find me,” they say. But curiously, some of those same women are sending love letters and emotional support to inmates serving 5 to 9. It’s like skipping the electrician and falling in love with the man in the electric chair.
Make it make sense.
Control Disguised as Connection
A man with a good job and a healthy lifestyle has options. He can swipe, date, ghost, or commit. That kind of freedom creates uncertainty—and with it, vulnerability. But a man locked away? He’s a captive audience in every sense. No ghosting, no surprise breakups, no unexpected DMs from his ex. He’s not just emotionally available—he’s logistically limited. For some women, that limitation feels like safety.
It’s not always about love. Sometimes, it’s about leverage.
Romanticizing Restrictions
Some women proudly pass up men with retirement plans and benefits—men with 401(k)s and paid vacation—to write to someone making seven cents a day in prison labor. That’s not a relationship, that’s a charity project.
And when asked why, the answer is often, “He listens to me.” Of course he does—he has nothing else to do. He’s got no Wi-Fi, no distractions, no freedom. You’re not just his woman—you’re his entertainment, therapy, and escape plan all in one.
The Illusion of Power
In many of these relationships, the woman feels like the prize, the leader, the one in charge. And in comparison to the unpredictable nature of modern dating—breadcrumbing, ghosting, situationships—this feels like control.
But what starts as emotional safety can quickly become emotional labor. That inmate may be locked up, but once he’s out, the fantasy ends and reality sets in.
Final Thought: Love or Leverage?
This isn’t about shaming—this is about observing the shifting dynamics of love and control in modern dating. If you find yourself drawn to relationships where you hold all the power, it’s worth asking: Do I want love, or do I just want to feel safe from being hurt?
Because while some women are turning down stable men with paychecks and goals, they’re falling in love with men who have limited mobility but unlimited attention. That’s not love—that’s strategy.
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